This child obtained his Asperger's diagnosis in toddlerhood. For years, he had been in and out of therapy. The therapy did work somewhat but when he came to me, he was still an unhappy social reject, prone to meltdowns. His parents tried their best to cope but family life was fraught with angst and frustration.
This child got into the GEP. The parents opted to put him there in the hope that he would find his own tribe and achieve some social success. He did not. GEP teachers complained about him often. The Math teacher complained that he was not paying attention, but he managed to score 98/100 in Mathematics in a GEP math exam. At this point, the teacher would be forgiven for thinking him arrogant (i.e., I am so smart I don't have to pay attention.) In actual fact, he was paying rapt attention. he just could not bear to look at the teacher. Is all. The parents were gung ho. Like me, they wanted their child to learn to integrate the neurotypical world, if necessary. So, the parents did NOT tell the GEP that their child had obtained a formal diagnosis of Asperger's. I worked in close collaboration with the parents to teach these social integration skills. He is in the end of P4. We are there. We have achieved what most parents of autistic children think is impossible. In P5 and P6, I will teach him to lead. By secondary school, he will be able to do all the social things everyone else can do (when necessary). However, there will things that he can do easily and excel at, which normal people will find extremely difficult. Thus, he will become sought after talent everywhere he goes. Autistic children can do excellently well things normal children cannot do well. We only have to teach them to do things that come naturally to others. Then, they will soar into their potential. Please note that the mother used the word "thrive." That is the goal: the autistic child must THRIVE, not merely survive. Actually, I don't think it is baby progress. I think it is HUGE progress. This parent is quite demanding hor... :-) If your child is neurotypical, we can go straight into leadership training. |
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January 2022
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